Living without expectations

So tough.. Cant imagine even.. I'm so used to expect things always that now I don know how to change myself.. When I sit and think about it I feel this is not right. I feel too selfish sometimes that I'm really scared others might get irritated with me. Though not experienced yet, but so called root cause analysis will lead me to the point where I must change this attitude. Am I missing half of my happiness because of this? Trying to figure out.

It feels really wonderful when something good happens unexpectedly but equally bad when something bad happens.. But being an optimist let me consider the positive side of it.

I have so many friends who are really good to me and I believe they are not expecting anything from me. Then why me? Will it not be pessimism to not expect anything? "take life as it comes".. Is it relay possible to adopt this principle in life?

I'm waiting for teju to have a discussion on it. Sandeep and body also can give some good suggestions I hope (again expectations :-) and kee?? No she cant be there since there has be v.dka when me and teju are discussing!!

So many questions I have and trying to find someone who atleast can help me in finding answers to some. kee is a very good advisor I consider but she cant understand the masculine side of it.:-) and my roommates.. Well haven't tried yet. But they sure will divert the whole discussion into opposite direction!! Masters of distractions I can say..

Ok the first opinion I got about it was, missing concluding remarks.. So I am concluding it with something like...

Karmanye Vaadhikaa rastey, maa phaleshu kadaachana!!